Adult Coaching

We have a hard time.
Hard. It’s almost impossible to succeed.
A world-wide saying goes:

“What our parents messed up in our first 15 years is what we keep trying to fix in the next 50.”

Bashing them? – Doesn’t make any sense.
Everyone makes a mistake or two. We are human beings.
However the responsibility is yours now.
You are a grown up man / woman. An adult is able to stand on his own feet and move forward. And self-made.

Many people think that – as a subject – they are entitled to being loved, various finanical allowances / discounts by the state, care, and provision.
No. They are wrong.
We must provide / create this ourselves in the first place. Even by making a huge effort. Anyone who expects this from others will be waiting for a long time. Superfluously. He becomes emotionally unstable, keeps chasing false ideas, wandering “from-one-relationship-to-another”. Besides, financially he gets stuck financially ( losing quality of life too) and begins to fall hard. As a result, he slowly gets doomed. He gets sick more and more often. He gradually consumes himself internally.
(Next: stroke / heart attack / cancer etc.)

Would you still keep doing the following things:

1) be insecure and be afraid of everything, which of course you would deny loudly, but the results would still show it well?
2) day-dream a lot, realize little of it, be unhappy due to this, and get ill more and more often?
3) would still live together with your parents, at age 40 – or – in sublease at age 50?
4) would have cash reserves for 3 months? And growing debt? Constant lack of money and misery?
5) would not choose public transport? – But it would be the only option for you?
6) would be unable to make and keep up a long-term, perspective relationship?
7) would be in a marriage saying “everything-is-okay”, but under the surface it’s a „we got used to each other, so what?” Instead of living, “just being”? Instead of a relationship based on real love?
8) would get stuck in your career, not getting promoted?
9) couldn’t afford to go abroad, thus wouldn’t be able to get to know different lifestyles and broaden your horizon?
10) would live a monotonously repetitive / boring / rhapsodic / unhappy life
11) instead, would succumb to the untrue / unreal / unhealthy “joys” to the flashbacks of virtual electronic world (plus extreme sexuality/ drugs / booze / smoke) ?
12) can’t find your place in the world? Would your perception of reality change? Would you lose your sophistication / finesse? Would important cleaning, self-care and hygiene habits of yours be missed more and more? Because of this, few people would seek for your company? Would you get lonely, ill more and more often? Then max. at age 50, you would either end your life yourself – or – your immune system would get weakened by your internal disharmony to such an extent that a slight illness would cause your Game Over?

Or it would be better if you, as an adult:

1) would stand with two feet on the ground, yet be emotionally enthusiastic?
2) would build your career on your own (without your parents’ helping hand) either as an entrepreneur or as an employee?
3) would move from home, save enough money (not your parents would give it to you) to possess at least 1 quality real estate and vehicle?
4) would develop your emotional world and find a matching self-made, self-guided wife / husband?
5) if unable to find such a mate, you would stay alone (not lonely) happy and not go into struggling, suffering relationships that drag you down, pull you back, hinder or block you?
6) if a problem turned up in everyday life (because it always does), you would solve it alone – or – together with your mate. Loosely and cheerfully. Not fighting, driven by EGO, cranking up each other, overreacting the problem and desperately sinking into it?
7) at the age of 30-40-50, not the divorce lawyers would be made rich by you. On the contrary you would stick to your mate ultimately? You, together would nourish and develop your relationship?
8) would have such friends with whom you together would help each other move forward – you would not drag down, hinder, double-cross each other?
9) on behalf of self-realization, matching your age, you would always find a job / business from which you would not only make a minimal living, but Live in Welfare and thus help developing and advancing smaller / larger communities in a similar way like you did it?
10) would you have a pleasant body scent even at age 70, would you dress variously, care for your body, and not compelling people back away due to your body- and mouth smell evoking disgust in them?
11) would you have healthy human relationships and spend your quality free time contentfully? And you wouldn’t spend money in swinger clubs being high meanwhile – or – you wouldn’t get donkey-drunk at home after work because you don’t want to face your real-self?

“Every day we choose – We might won or lose”

Then – Now – it’s high time to take the bull by the horns.
If you say to this (also) “next year”, the situation will not only “simply” get worse.
Your internal tension takes over. Stress deeper and stronger.
Where does this lead? – To cancer.” (already at age 45. Game Over)
It’s not what you want, is it?

We don’t want to save anybody.
We do not keep saying: “It will be good for you, favourable this and that, etc.” No, we don’t.
If you yourself don’t see this, unfortunately we cannot help you.
But if you do know: – massive progress always requires financial investment, here’s your chance.
We can help.
This works.

For those act, we can help.
For those who ruminate long, we cannot.

Adult Coaching
Good now gets Better
Starksil Group