The age of denial has just arrived.
What used to be “yes” has now become “no”.
Suddenly loud and harsh: “I’m not a child anymore”.
But he / she has no life experience.
– What happened to my son / daughter?
The same as 30 years ago to you. He “simply” became a teenager.
Now, until the age of 20, he shall try everything you have protected him from so far.
– Competitive sport with forbidden doping – or – never ending video games at home.
– Fails at school / gets into bad company.
– Smoking / drugs / alcohol / moonlighting / internet addiction / endless feasts – extreme obesity / abnormal non-eating, anorexia / forbidden parties / festivals / illegal gambling / early v. non-hetero sex / suicide attempt.
This can be:
– strictly prohibited by you, parents
– kept under control mindfully
– let loose without any control
However, only 1 of these leads to good.
– How – should all this be done – Well(!)? Now this is what most parents do not know. Your only sample is the way you were nurtured by your parents. If you conjure up memories from this and you are satisfied, then everything is fine. However, most of us would do it in a completely different way. You might even have an idea – How – you would do it differently. But the implementation. That’s what most people have a problem with. It’s no coincidence you’re reading this, is it now?
At stake is your child’s transformation into an adult.
– What – adult he / she will become.
Would you be “happy” if your child as an adult:
1) would be insecure and afraid of everything, which of course he would deny loudly, but the results would still show it well?
2) would day-dream a lot, realize little of it, be unhappy due to this, and get ill more and more often?
3) would still live together with you, parents, at age 40 – or – in sublease at age 50?
4) would have cash reserves for merely 3 months? And growing debt? Constant lack of money and misery?
5) would not choose public transport? – But it would be the only option?
6) would be unable to make and keep up a long-term, perspective relationship?
7) would be in a marriage saying “everything-is-okay”, but under the surface it’s a „we got used to each other, so what?” being but not living? Instead of a relationship based on real love?
8) would get stuck in his career, not getting promoted?
9) couldn’t afford to go abroad, thus wouldn’t be able to get to know different lifestyles and broaden his horizon?
10) would live a monotonously repetitive / boring / rhapsodic / unhappy life
11) instead, would succumb to the untrue / unreal / unhealthy “joys” to the flashbacks of virtual electronic world (plus extreme sexuality/ drugs / booze / smoke) ?
12) would be lost unexpectedly because he would take his own life?
The Bad News is:
90% of adults in 2022 are like the list above.
= = 90% ! = =
That’s a very high number.
You don’t want to turn your very own child into such an adult, do you?
Or would it be better if he, as an adult:
1) would stand with two feet on the ground, yet be emotionally rich?
2) would build his career on his own (without your help) either as an entrepreneur or an employee?
3) would move from home, would save (not you would give him) that much in order to be able to buy and keep up at least 1 decent real estate and 1 car?
4) would hone his emotional skills and find a suitable self-made wife / husband?
5) if he couldn’t find such a partner, he would stay alone (not lonely) and be happy and not get into a toxic relationships, which would make him look like a disillusioned poker-face / bulldog-face?
6) if problems would turn up during everyday life (because it always does), would they solve it alone – or – together with their partner, in a relaxed and cheerful manner, rather than doing an EGO fight, cranking up each other, exaggerating the problem, and sinking into it bitterly?
7) At the age of 30 / 40 / 50, he would not fatten the wallets of divorce lawyers, but he and his partner would stick by each other ultimately? They would baby and develop their relationship, and wouldn’t get indifferent / frustrated in it?
8) he would have such friends with whom they would mutually help each other in order to get progress – and they wouldn’t drag down, hinder, or stab each other in the back?
9) he would always find such a job / business opportunity from which he would not only “make a living somehow”, but Live Affluently and help the development / progress of 1-1 communities into this direction?
“Every day we choose – We might win or lose”
Then – Now – it’s time to take the bull by the horns.
If you say “next year / he is still little” or “we’ve also grown up somehow”, then unfortunately the child will become an adult: – just like you now.
– No offense. (Kids copy their parents. Always)
Are you satisfied with your life? – If so, then everything is fine. No professional help is needed. Keep it up.
If, on the contrary, you didn’t use to agree with your parents’ methods (when you were a child), then why would you give the same (!) to your son/daughter 30-40 years later?
We can help.
In life, opportunities which cannot be repeated rarely turn up. But now: It’s such.
If you screw it – Your child will become a piker.
If you ask for our help – We will help you nurture him a healthy, financially and emotionally happy person.
You still do have control. Yet.
The situation can still be saved.
The bad news is – This is the last chance.
If you don’t take the bull by the horns now, it’s game over.
In adulthood, it is almost impossible to succeed – or – min. 15 years of continuous self-development work. And the latter very few are willing to do.
+1 Bad news: What has been easy so far has just become a lot more difficult. “Little child, little problem. Big child, big problem.”
+1 Good news: But – Still – it can be saved.
If you want to carve a real human out of your teenage son / daughter, then this is the last and final chance.
Good now gets Better